Facts are a difficult thing …
Sorry for the long silence here on the blog … it’s been a pretty crazy month. Not sure where to start, or if I even should. Personal challenges abound, but there’s something I try to remind myself as often as possible:
Worse things have happened to better people …
Of course, when we’re in the dumps, it can sometimes be easy to be cynical about even the simplest of facts. But facts, they say, are a difficult thing.
Facts are difficult because they do not bend to our denial, they are not affected by our lies, they remain stalwart and seemingly silent, but that “silence” can become deafening.
When everything is said and done, there is always three sides to every story: Yours, Mine & The Truth.
Sadly, it is too easy to cling to the first thought that comes to mind. Surely, our ego assures us, we cannot be wrong. Ahhhh … the joy of arrogance and the heart-warming bliss of denial!
Truth can only be found by those who seek for her. Those who refuse to seek Truth will never find her, and in this self imposed ignorance we bring chaos and disorder into our lives as well as the lives of those around us. Before we know it, we are so lost and confused that we cannot even remember when or how we even lost our way. This is the path of denial, and it only leads to darker places.
Life changes and so do we; we either get “better” or we get “worse.” In fact, the whole of our lives is a combination of both, but hopefully — in the bigger picture — we are at least directionally correct.
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I visited with an old friend for the first time in a really long time yesterday. From the moment I shook his hand and gave him an embrace I could tell that things have changed for the better in that man’s soul. He has never seemed this much at peace. The time that we did get to spend together was good but entirely too short. I now wish I had asked more questions and spent more time listening.
It also left me looking at my own life …
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Life changes and so do we … and in our living and changing there are certain that things that always remain.
Facts, they say, are a difficult thing.


March 15, 2010 - 8:08 am
a bit melancholy? Must be rainy and gloomy where your at. My facts suck at the moment too but I know things will change. I just hope the new facts don’t suck as well
March 15, 2010 - 9:28 am
Yeah, in more ways than one. Yesterday was just a really weird, dreary and dismal day.
Last part of your comment was rather Lebowski-like!
March 15, 2010 - 9:37 am
Was that a reference to our Man Ho? Even though this blog wasn’t very uplifting, I thoroughly relate and really liked it. The last year has shown me that it, indeed, could always be worse.
Love ya BW!
March 15, 2010 - 10:13 am
Mayhaps!
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Originally I intended to elaborate, thus the extreme vagueness, but yeah, ’twas our mutual friend formerly known as the Man Ho!
March 15, 2010 - 1:22 pm
Facts remain, but life continues.
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And the only true facts in it are that God is good, and life’s not fair.
As I recall, a man, wiser than he could ever have known in that moment, once grabbed me by the shoulders trying to convey so passionately to my very young mind those principles I still hold dear today.
Yet this I know, that somewhere immediately visible or not, there is good and a silver lining. Somewhere, the world is a beautiful place again!
Haha I’m honestly not trying to rant (You know my father very well, and thus know how similar to him
But I digress:
Keep finding the beauty. Cling to what is good. I’m praying for you all the time.
And even when it’s not seen, love is always around you.
March 16, 2010 - 7:51 am
Yeah, LOL, you’ve told me about the “LIFE IS NOT FAIR, BOY!” story.
Same guy that smashed a raw egg on the kitchen floor saying, “That what could happen to your little brother’s head! Is that what you want???”
“No!” [sob]
“Then don’t ever kick him in the head again!”
LOL …
Something’s definitely wrong with your old man, duder!
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BUT ANYHOW … thank you (sincerely) for the prayers, the goodly words and friendship. You’re a good man!
March 15, 2010 - 6:40 pm
very profound my friend…
and vague. very vague.
nice to know your still alive anyhow
March 16, 2010 - 7:52 am
wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy vague! lol
Nice to be alive, thanks!
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March 16, 2010 - 2:30 pm
Hate to see you feeling shitty! Hope things turn around for ya.
March 18, 2010 - 11:14 am
Thanks, sweety! All is well; just an melancholy moment compounded by a moderately wild night before!
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March 18, 2010 - 8:32 am
I hear ya, the most dangerous people in the world are those who believe they know the truth. the truth hides in plain sight, like a mist that you try to grasp in your hand. Well written.
March 18, 2010 - 11:15 am
Thanks (and I love the analogy, dude!)